1. Step back.
“Take a deep breath,” says J.T. O’Donnell, founder and CEO of Careerealism.com. “They didn’t say, ‘No, not ever.’ This wasn’t a personal attack on you. They just said, ‘No, not today.’”
You need to realize that a lot of talented people applied for that job, and the fact that you made it to the very end is awesome. Just because you weren’t considered the “perfect” match, doesn’t mean you weren’t a great match. Take a step back and put some perspective on the situation.
2. Step up.
“You need to step up now and show your character, your authenticity – prove that you mean what you said,” says O’Donnell.
Send a note thanking the interviewer for letting you know you weren’t selected, and let them know you’re happy they found a great candidate. Even though this might be hard for you to do, it’s very important that you take that responsibility, according to O’Donnell.
Also let them know that you’re still interested in working for the firm in the future and touch base with them every now and then. Make it clear that you’ll be proactive in your efforts to work there, even after getting rejected this time. It’s going to show them that you really are the professional you said you were during the hiring process.
3. Do not let your pride get in the way.
“It’s really easy to say, ‘Forget them! They had their shot!’” says O’Donnell. “But you know what? You know you want to work there, it’s just that your feelings are hurt.”
Don’t let the pride get in the way. You need to push it aside and be the bigger person. Focus on the future – what if another job opens up there? If you really were one of the top choices, they may just call you and skip the hiring process altogether. Wouldn’t that be nice?
By Ariella Coombs